Anger, Shame, and Self-Criticism
You Hold it in Until it Explodes, or Turns Inward.
You feel like you're always doing something wrong.
Too sensitive. Too reactive. Too much. Or not enough.
You lash out and then spiral in guilt.
Or you swallow your rage, pretend it's fine, and smile through clenched teeth.
You keep it together all day, then beat yourself up all night.
There's a voice inside you that never shuts up:
“Why did you say that?”
“Why can't you just let it go?”
“What's wrong with you?”
And beneath it?
Shame. Deep, burning, isolating shame that makes you want to disappear.
Understanding These Emotions
Therapy for Inner Shame in Connecticut
You're not broken.
That anger? That self-criticism? That shame?
They're not defects, they are protectors.
Parts of you that learned long ago:
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It wasn't safe to speak your truth
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Love had to be earned through perfection
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Anger made you "bad" or "crazy"
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Mistakes would cost you connection
So now, your system is trying to protect you by over-controlling, over-performing, or over-apologizing.
And it's exhausting.
The Work We Do
In therapy, we don't shame the shame.
We don't fight the inner critic.
We get curious about where it came from — and who it's trying to protect.
Using EMDR, IFS parts work, and nervous system healing, we:
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Separate you from the voices that attack and belittle
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Work with the parts of you that hold rage, judgment, and pain
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Help you feel your emotions without being swallowed by them
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Reclaim the powerful, tender, worthy Self underneath it all
You don't have to live with this war inside forever.